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It can be very hard to feel comfortable with and enjoy sex when you've been sexually abused. Even people who haven't been sexually abused struggle to feel comfortable with their sexuality and sex.
This article may be helpful to anyone who has issues with sexuality. As a result, some survivors will mistake unsatisfying and unpleasurable sex, or even sexually abusive behavior, for sex. This means that survivors can be vulnerable to being further abused.
As a survivor, this is not your fault. You may not know: Abuse teaches the opposite - during abuse, your needs don't matter; you have to cater to someone else's sexual needs.
Your sexual desires don't exist, and if they do exist they don't count. And of course you have no power to stop the abuse. Some survivors believe that's what sex is - unenjoyable and abusive - or that that is how it is with a man, or with a woman.
They may also believe that's all they are good for, that they can't expect anything better, and that if sex isn't enjoyable it's their fault or the result of their own inadequacy - they are "damaged".
These reactions and beliefs are outcomes of abuse and need to be challenged - because they are not true. Sexual Abuse Is Not Sex One of the hardest things for abuse survivors to do is separate sexual abuse from sex. I know you may know this intellectually, but it's worth repeating many times - sexual abuse is not sex.
Even if you liked the attention, approached your abuser for attention, were aroused, or had an orgasm, it's still not sex and you are not responsible. Placing responsibility on the abuser is one of the most important steps in separating the sexual abuse from your sexuality and sex life.
Children are too young to understand what sex is so it's not surprising that many abused children mistake abuse for sex.
After all, it does involve sexual contact, sexual body parts, and sexual stimulation. Sadly, sexual abuse becomes the child's model for future sex. It is crucial to find ways to separate your sexuality and sex from sexual abuse, and to create an entirely new association with sex - one that is positive, safe, and fun.
You may need to discover your own sexuality - what it means to you, what you enjoy, and what gives you pleasure. It helps to develop a sexual relationship with yourself including self-pleasuring and discovering how you like to talk, move, dance, or interact with others when you're in touch with your sexual feelings.
You may want to fantasize or read about sex, view erotica,and talk about sex with your friends or partner. If you have a partner try to be playful about sex - cuddle, massage each other, talk about fantasies, and ask for what you want sexually.
Sex can be playful, fun, and safe. The Myth That Sexual Abuse Causes Survivors' Sexual Orientation Because same-sex abuse is considered to be the same as lesbian and gay sex, many people believe that same-sex abuse causes survivors to be gay.
On the flip side, when a survivor has been abused by a member of the other sex and the survivor identifies as gay, it's assumed that that, too, is the result of abuse. Many heterosexual survivors also struggle with questions about their sexuality because of the confusion and negative associations about sex that are created by sexual abuse.Jan 21, · I look for "safer" not "safe".
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